Series | The Overcoming Life
Scripture | 1 Corinthians 13:6-7, “6 Love
does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects,
always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
Lesson
24 | Lack of
Trust, “I Don’t Trust You”
Many of us can relate to being hurt and disappointed in life because
the people we trusted let us down. Often
times I as a pastor suffer the reproach of what past leaders did to people and
thus I have to work extra hard at showing myself trust worthy. Other times when I’ve counseled couples
through their past hurts the hardest thing for them to restore and get back is
their trust for each other.
It's a fact of life that people will let us down- and even some
people will break our hearts because we trusted them so much. However, God does not want us to go through
life with a bitter heart towards people.
We shouldn’t allow the mistakes of others to effect our new
relationships and we must be willing to forgive those who truly repent and
desire to still be in our lives, Matthew 18:21-22.
On the other hand, this doesn't mean that we should become
people’s doormats by allowing them to hurt us in the same ways. There are two sides to the coin of
trust. The first side is to be forgiving
and willing to trust people. And the
other side of the coin is to find the right people to trust in the right places
in our lives.
I would never marry a woman that I couldn’t trust. However, when my wife lets me down and truly
repents I need to forgive her and not hold it against her. At the same time, if she stopped loving me
and continually cheated on me it would be okay for me to divorce her and not
have her in that place in my life anymore, Matthew 19:9.
The same is true on the job. You may have an employee that messes up
sometimes but they apologize and do his or her best to do better. However, if they steal or keep breaking their
word its good to fire them so they will learn a lesson and hopefully do better
on their next job.
Therefore, we should learn how to forgive those who let us down
and know when the right time is to give someone the gift of good-bye, 1
Corinthians 15:33. In both situations,
we should still love everyone and be willing to trust the good people in our
lives. In other words, don’t let what
others have done make you give up on finding trust worthy people in life. They’re out there- you just need to be
patient and find them.
Do you struggle with trusting people? If so, pray this out loud, “Father, I ask you
to forgive me for not loving people like you do. Help me to trust the right people in the
right places in my life. Amen.”
Reflection | Is it hard for you to trust people?
Why?
Action | (1) Repent if you have
allowed past hurt to scar your heart and make you bitter. (2) Ask the Holy Spirit to give you trust for
others and heal your heart. (3) Lastly, be
led of the Holy Spirit to trust people in the right way and in the right places
of your life.
One Year Reading Plan (Optional) | Jeremiah 44:24-47:7, 2
Timothy 2:22-3:17, Psalm 94:1-23, & Proverbs 26:6-8. Click here to read
online.
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